David and Janet came into my office both looking upset and disgruntled. They had become engaged a month ago and were already overwhelmed with the planning process. "Why do we even need to do this?" David asked irritably, "There's the venue to rent, the band to pick, the Church to choose, the wedding accessories to buy-- it just seems like a huge waste of money.

"You know," David began as he sat down, "these last two months have been much easier for me with the wedding planning. I keep thinking about this change I'm about to make and it affects everything. Like, my mom had picked out some flower arrangements that Janet didn't like so I had a talk with my mom about how I love her but that Janet comes first now and that I am trying to practice that.

Janet and David came in and sat down smiling. "Well, it's been a while since we've been here." began Janet, "But things have been really moving along. We're four weeks from the wedding and most of the major planning has been done. I could finally get to my vows over the weekend. I just couldn't focus before but now I'm really into them."

"Yeah," continued David, "It was a little easier for me, I had more time to focus and mine got done a bit earlier-although not much.